Whether it is a dating relationship or a friendship, breakups often leave us feeling lost and broken. I personally feel it is healthy to give yourself the needed time to mourn the ending of the relationship, but there is a point where we must make the decision to process our feelings in order to start moving forward with a healing heart.
As I play around with the potential outline of a self-help breakup book, I wanted to share with you some reflective questions that may help you to better understand the situation and emotions you may be facing. Above the sadness that may be wanting to set in remember that:
1. You are not the only person to face this and reaching out is okay.
2. You can and will move forward if you choose to work on it a little.
3. You are loved and valued more than you know, so do not allow one person to tear down your strength.
Find a journal and work through these questions at your own pace. It is good to write the first thing that comes to mind, but also spend time reflecting on the questions. Sometimes deeper answers will surface, bring with them enlightening understanding you had not yet considered.
Let me know what you think of the questions in a comment below!
1. What caused your breakup?
2. How do you feel about the breakup?
3. If you reflect on the relationship, what can you take responsibility for when it comes to actions and decisions that lead to the parting of ways?
4. What would you do differently if you had the opportunity?
5. What are you glad you stood your ground on?
6i. Name one of your favourite memories from the relationship.
6ii. Why is that your favourite memory of the relationship?
7. What were some warning flags you chose to ignore?
8. What are some personality traits, character flaws, or mind sets you feel you need to work on in order to create a healthier mindset moving forward?
9i. What is your least favourite memory of the relationship?
9ii. Why is that your least favourite memory?
10. How do you think the other person viewed you during the breakup process?
11. If you could write the other person a letter, what would you tell them?
12i. How do you feel about yourself in this area of your life?
12ii. If your best friend was in the situation you are facing now, what would you say to her?